Monday, 1 June 2009

Why you should never marry an Azeri girl.

So, summer is officially here.

Which means, people relax and look forward to their holidays abroad. For me however, it is a stressful time-the time I want my mother to visit. That process is never simple. First of all, we have to go through the whole visa application process. Last time the interrogation lasted for 40 minutes. Is she coming to nanny/baby-sit for us? (This, by the way is officially prohibited by UK law. If you are a foreign grandmother, you are not allowed to look after your grandchild.) Is she living with us? Otherwise, why could she possibly be staying for this long and visiting so often?

All those questions make perfect sense to the British officials. It probably seems very suspicious that anyone would want their mother to stay with them for 2 months at a time, unless exploiting her as cheap labour. (Admittedly, very tempting considering the cost of childcare in the UK)

But what might seem weird here is the most natural thing for Azeries. The whole purpose in life for an Azeri grandmother is to look after her grandchildren. It is the task that comes as naturally as cooking dolma. They just don’t understand how it is possible not to want to do that, or not to be expected to.

A while ago, I was discussing going to a spa with my local mummy friend. She was struggling to get a babysitter and said she might not be able to join me.
- What about your mother? - I questioned naturally, as I knew she lived nearby.
- Are you kidding? - She said incredulously- I could never ask her to baby-sit for me while I go to a spa!

Eh?- I thought-Why not?

Getting my mother past the UK entry clearance officer is only the first step in the process. Step two involves my husband, who would not want his own mother to live with us for that long. I established, after almost 9 years of marriage, that two months is the absolute critical limit. Anything more- and my husband’s sanity is in jeopardy. Anything less -and I am not very happy.

That brings us to this very sensitive issue- the British husbands and the Azeri family dependency.


If you are from the UK (or other western culture for that matter) and have an Azeri girlfriend, my advice to you would be: do not marry her. If you are determined to marry an Azeri, then at least do yourself a favour and find an orphan. Because once you are married to an Azeri, you are married to her whole family. Often, that includes cousins.

You might think you did OK (better than my husband anyway) if she can cook all those elaborate Azeri dishes. You might secretly hope (some people are silly!) that she would behave like a good Muslim wife and never nag, demand or argue. She might claim that her parents would be happy with her immigrating. And that she is totally cool leaving them behind in Azerbaijan (where there is no concept of social care for geriatrics), to get old and crippled on their own. Do not trust her! If she is a nice Azeri girl, she will forever be tied to her family with the ties stronger than you can ever imagine in your worst nightmare.

She will want to support them both morally and financially. She will probably insist she has to get their flat refurbished, buy them a new telly or a car, and pay for any medicine or surgeries they will need, as well as send them cash every month…. More importantly, she would also be expected to. Forever. On top of that, she would always be plotting how she could eventually bring them over, so they could benefit from the proper medical care, and get looked after as they get older.

Yes, there are some parents in Baku who could, should they want to, support half of the UK. But that is a tiny percentage of the population. The majority are suffering from inability to adjust their old Soviet skills to the new ruthless world they now live in. They are scared and lonely, and they expect to be taken care of by their children, who were a lot quicker to acclimatise to the new life. And if you were an elderly person somewhere like Baku, wouldn’t you be afraid to be abandoned there? As you get older you get sick more often. And to be sick in Baku is pretty scary. Even if you have money. And what if you don’t?

As for me, I worry all the time. I worry about my mother and my father getting older back in Baku. But also, I worry about my own old age. Because, when I see what relationship a lot of British children have with their parents, I am terrified. I look at my little daughter, who needs me so badly right now, and wonder to myself: is she going to abandon me in a home when I am old and of no more use to her? Is she going to never call and never visit on weekends? I guess I could secure my position now if I learned how to cook and do some gardening. Alternatively, I could try to get rich so she would at least have to pretend she cares-for the inheritance.

163 comments:

  1. I can't get the part where grandmas can not baby sit for their grandchildern. Here in Peru, it's a blessing to have your mom around to help you. Even better if there is a grandpa too. And it's a blessing for every part involved: the grandparents, the parents and the granchildren.
    I don't have children of my own, but one nephew and one niece. I had been my nephew's official baby sitter during his whole life: 15 years.
    I know, I know: families can be a blessing... and a curse, of course.

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  2. I wish your daughter never abandon you,she got yours genes.It is very sad situation.Our life too complicated and sometimes cruel, we must be strong,but the same time warmhearted.Good luck,darling.I think the name of next posting is "What if you don't have money?"

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  3. Well, yeah, this is one of the things I actually like about our culture - we take care and protect our families. And although I want to live a period of my life alone (maybe go studying somewhere abroad) but I also can't imagine living away from my parents for more than a year or two.

    They're getting old, lonely, they need me as their daughter and, what is very important, their friend. They have a son tho, but it's not the same at all.

    Yes, Azeri girls are complicated. But it seems like u're handling it pretty well ;)

    P.S. another good thing here - u can always ask ur friends for help if ur parents need something.

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  4. Uh, too funny. My Mom lives with us and my husband is perfectly fine with it. Honest.
    My only hope for the distant future is that if I lead by example, my daughter will do the same when we get old. Now, I certainly hope that I won't have to live with her, but that she would stay close to us even when we're old and really annoying.

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  5. Nata: You are very lucky! Hope you tell your hubby I said that. :)

    Do you have a very big house? :)
    I think having enough space is very important.

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  6. Love your blog. Love your writing style.

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  7. Thank you Turana! Welcome to my blog, do come again. :))

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  8. Without a doubt, marrying an Azeri girl was absolutely the best thing I've EVER done in my life. Frankly, she is the most intelligent, emotionally well-adjusted person I have ever known. So what if my mother-in-law lives with us? Our daughter has an extra daily dose of love, I've learned to eat cabbage, and I'm the only person at my company who has ironed knickers and socks! The space issue is VERY important though. When we all lived in an apartment together when we first came back to the US, it was a little....."challenging" shall we say?....at times.

    Chris (AKA Nata's husband)

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    1. Just starting to text a beautiful Azerbaijan girl I find her completely charming. .. and most intelligent conversations I ever had. .. her take on life and the world is amazing.
      I believe I am falling in love. ....

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    2. Starting to text her? Have you met her? Smells like con to me. Watch out.

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  9. @ Chris ( AKA Nata's husband): Can I marry you as well? see my posting on Harem life. :)

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  10. I'm honored by the offer. But if I recall my Turkish history lessons, the sultan's mother was also a driving force in harem "management". One babushka in the house at a time for me, please! Besides, harem's are generally frowned on in America...except if you live in Utah.

    Chris (AKA Nata's husband)

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  11. you should've better named your post
    "WHY YOU SHOULD MARRY AN AZERI GIRL" and keep writing on this topic

    sincerely
    an azeri male

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    1. i want see the topic about
      "WHY YOU SHOULD MARRY AN AZERI MAN"
      i'm wondering about azeri man :)

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  12. its probably because azeri pension fund sucks too badly :)) and girls are homesick :))) hope it does not happen to me at all :)))

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  13. I have an English boyfriend and he is more attached to his family than me to mine.

    Azeri girl

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  14. I miss that warmth, love and support of my big Azeri family which is quite happy in Baku and rarely visit us in spite of our constant invitations. Naila

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  15. I am in Ganja now, looking from your window and trying to find a middle...:) I guess we are not able to leave family, even we need freedom or something like that abroad... Giving something (love, meoney, etc.) can be beautiful in some cases, but we need to take everything into consideration:)

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  16. Azer people are very nice people
    I love azerbaycan and the azeri people
    azer,s are turks Im turk I support all my azeri brothers
    Yasasin azerbaycannn

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    1. Brother Hamza dont get emotional just for muslim get to the fact you will know the person if you give or take money if you know the person when you marry her.. azeri sucks they die for money like my wife i hate azeri women

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  17. I ve read your post and was terrified .How could you humiliate Azerbaijani girls and advise to English men not to marry just for reason that they are close to their family? You are married to English man!!! So he has to divorce you then!!

    You had better talk about that English people have lost normal relationship with their parents instead of accusing Azerbaijani girls!!! It is really tragedy!!!

    And about nickname Scary Azeri. It is insulting, humiliating, disgusting, Do you realise that you insulting the Azerbaijan nation??? If you dont respect yourself at least respect Azerbaijanians. it is shame!!!


    I am asking you to change your nickname and putting Scary and your name not Azery.

    You have got a writing talent but you write no nice things.

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    1. Hello Sevda first of all why azeri men dont marry azeri women they go russia and get marry azeri women just need money money money they dont need husband or family i make my life hell when she came to canada need right away car dont want to visit my parents buy this but that i have two kids then only i am with her azeri are blood suckers in dubai you will find most of the azeri girls working most of the countries dont give visa to girls

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  18. @Sevda:

    Oh, Sevda, Sevda...

    What can I say to someone like you?

    I am so sorry. You have COMPLETELY misunderstood this posting. And you will probably misunderstand most of my blog, so I ask you to stay away from it. Simply because you have no clue. I am not even going to try to explain. Go with peace. :)

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    1. Qudurasan Qurbaga!
      Its because of ppm like you the country is in pieces.
      Just because you hate your family you don't have to make a blog out of it. You're not harming azeri nation nor its image. You wont know where yoy going if you don't know where you come from. I live in New York over a decade but I'm still an azeri. You sound pretty fake to be azeri and plus i think you meant to say don't marry an azeri girl like yourself. You oughta be ashamed of yourself. I really dont see any humor in these lines. And I really feel bad for your husband. You are a failure it your forget your family and its the same for most cultures. You're talking about every nation has its own culture. Well this is our, azeri culture. I highly doubt you are azeri. You're one of those Russian speaking, European thinking brats that has no life but post nonsence like this. I'm pretty sure everyone who is married to azeri man/woman are happy with the warmth within the family. Your Bligh onlynmakes you and losers like you happy. I'm a very open minded person but your ignorance is just ridiculous.
      Azeri.

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  19. Assalam-o-Alaikum wr wb, My dear brother and sisters in Azerbaijan, I m saleem from Pakistan. I love one girl who live in Baku, She is honest kind and lovely girl and most important thing she is true muslim lady, holy lady i need like that girl when i say her for marriage she agree with me and we are so happy but some thing i don't know fate of our life, now she is away to me and some one told me she get married but i m not i m still single i m waiting her inshahallah we will be met. i pray and plz you all pray for me, I love her truly and she love me so much i can't understand why she get marry may be some one tell me wrong. she belong to rich family, if you know about her please tell me about GOD must give you a reware inshahallah

    your brother
    saleem shah

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    1. Walakum salam pakistan is just like azerbaijan what she can expect from india or pakistan nationality they show the real colors when they marry american canadian UK etc..

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  20. @Brother Saleem,

    Alleikum Assalam! Of course! I know that girl! The rich and holy one! She is still waiting for you, brother. Just keep praying.

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  21. looooooool bilo ocen smeshno...

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  22. LOL Very cool! Coolest azeri girl i have met so far! I'm half azeri married to an american man, year after our marriage I told him exact same words about an orphan lol Keep writing
    XO

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  23. @Anonymous: Thank you so much and welcome to my blog. x

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  24. The answer is very simple, they are all very STERVI

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  25. Scary Azeri,

    Love love love your blog. Just came across it half an hour ago, and now I just have to read through all of your posts.

    @Sevda - Duh!

    norazina

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  26. You have mental problems. You are indeed scary but you are not Azeri. Go to doctor.

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    1. he is not mental i married azeri girl my life become hell in canada money money money and get a job job job she can anything to get a job anywhere in world beware azeri women

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  27. @Norazina: Thank you,hope you enjoy it.

    @Anonymous: See my response to Sevda.

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  28. i think the main problem is the culture.
    in my country we live the same as yours; where we take care of our parents forever since this is what we grow up doing & what our religion tell.
    Sultan SA

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  29. Ciao a tutti!sto mantenendo rapporti via email con una ragazza azera!dice di vivere a Saxil a nord della capitale,sembra molto dolce ed e molto bella...vorrebbe venire da me in italia e vivere insieme!io sto raccimulando denaro per pagarle il biglietto e...spero vada tutto bene!lei vive da sola perche ha litigato con la famiglia perche volevano che sposasse chi dicevano loro,ma lei cerca l amore e se ne andata!...accetto consigli!grazie

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  30. @Anonymous Italiano:

    I had to translate this via google...You are kidding me, right? It is obviously a scam, my friend. I even had a blog posting about this, based on an email my friend received from a (fake) azeri nice girl, who wants to love him forever. Go spend that saved money on some common sense, mio amigo. :))

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  31. .. Thank you for your reply! pero put me a little in crisis!!! to me it seems a real people, are the months we write, I'll send photos and and really nice! I've fallen in love .... I was a bit jealous when asked me to pay the ticket in euros! how can I be sure it's actually a scam??????? Thanks in advance!

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  32. Reading your posts is reading my own life in UK :) English husband, daughter, mum across the road, trips to Bicester village, CK undies and passion for IKEA...
    As for the attachement to parents - my husband has never shared space with so many visitors before but that what makes times when its just the two of us so special..Mum across the road is a lifesaving idea, we have never turned down an invitation to a party and Im trying to encourage my english in-laws to join the party!
    Love your style, will keep reading.

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  33. @Italiano: It is a scam. Trust me. I had a blog posting here recently ( dig about you will find it) about a letter like that someone I know received by email, too. I then actually emailed her back pretending to be him, just to see how far we can push her until she asks for money. she sent me real photos. I will actually do a blog posting soon about it all. Just think, use your brain!! :)

    @Olivia: Nice to meet you and thank you for your comment. where are you from yourself then?

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  34. Oh and @ Sultan SA: I dont think looking after your parents is related to you being religious or not. I am not religious but I will forever look after mine. and so will my husband who is not religious either. Thank God. :)))

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  35. Did you see the British documentary “Bride Trafficking Unveiled”? It’s truly scary.
    If you didn't see it, google it when you have time.

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  36. "In the 11th century A.D. with Seljukid conquests, Oghuz Turkic tribes started moving across the Iranian plateau into the Caucasus and Anatolia. The influx of the Oghuz and other Turkmen tribes was further accentuated by the Mongol invasion.[10] Here, the Oghuz tribes divided into various smaller groups, some of whom – mostly Sunni – moved to Anatolia (i.e., the Ottomans) and became settled, while others remained in the Caucasus region and later ... from 13th century onwards they gradually Turkified the Iranian-speaking populations of Azerbaijan, thus creating a new identity based on Shiism and the use of Oghuz Turkic. However, it is notable that the Turkification of Azaris was completed only by the late 1800s, while the old Iranic speakers can still be found in tiny isolated recesses of the mountains or other remote areas (such as Harzand, Galin Guya, Shahrud villages in Khalkhal and Anarjan). Today, this Turkic-speaking population is also known as Azeris.[11]"






    "The Iranian origins of the Azeris likely derive from ancient Iranic tribes, such as the Medes in Iranian Azarbaijan, and Scythian invaders who arrived during the eighth century BCE. It is believed that the Medes mixed with Mannai.[12]"






    "A recent study of the genetic landscape of Iran was completed by a team of Cambridge geneticists led by Dr. Maziar Ashrafian Bonab (an Iranian Azarbaijani).[13][14] The study found that the Azerbaijanis of Iran do not have a similar FSt and other genetic markers found in Anatolian and European Turks. However, the genetic Fst and other genetic traits like MRca and mtDNA of Iranian Azeris were identical to Persians in Iran."

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  37. @Anonymous: Huh?

    OK then...

    "The majority of Chukchi reside within Chukotka Autonomous Okrug, but some also reside in the neighboring Sakha Republic to the west, Magadan Oblast to the southwest, and Koryak Autonomous Okrug to the south. Some Chukchi also reside in other parts of Russia, as well as in Europe and North America. The total number of Chukchi in the world slightly exceeds 15,000.

    The Chukchi are traditionally divided into the Maritime Chukchi, who had settled homes on the coast and lived primarily from sea mammal hunting, and the Reindeer Chukchi, who nomadised in the inland tundra region with their herds of reindeer. The Russian name "Chukchi" is derived from the Chukchi word Chauchu ("rich in reindeer"), which was used by the 'Reindeer Chukchi' to distinguish themselves from the 'Maritime Chukchi,' called Anqallyt ("the sea people"). The indigenous name for a member of the Chukchi ethnic group as a whole is Luoravetlan (literally 'true person').

    In Chukchi religion, every object, whether animate or inanimate, is assigned a spirit. This spirit can be either harmful or beneficial. Some of Chukchi myths reveal a dualistic cosmology.[1][2] Chukchi religious practices were prohibited by the Soviet Union in the 1920s."

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  38. @Nata: Hey there...No, have not seen that one. will look it up, thanks!

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  39. Wow. Your blog is pretty epic. I just recently made some Azeri friends and one of them dances at the speed of light.. it's pretty awesome. Since then I've been obsessed with the culture. Unfortunately internet resources linking to things Azeri related are relatively low... so your blog was a pretty sick find.

    Keep on writing! I'm interested to know more about the Azeri way of life.

    Cheers

    Araf, Canada, 16

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    1. Azeri way of life give money give money give money give freedom No money no honey so no need to marry just the honey pay the money

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  40. the headline and content absolutely differ. i guess that it is ur own efforts to solve expexted problems in the future by giving so amazing advices :)just be patience. everything is gonna be ok. there is no need 2 think what will happen in the nearest future. because the future is the outcomes of today's activities. so dont panic, carry on, and keep calm :)
    P.S. it would be better 2 share ur experince, compare our cultures rahter than writing about the destiny, and misunderstanding :)
    P.S.S. God blessing u.

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  41. salam,

    thanks for the posting this article.i`m not understand at all in this article because of my bad english languange. As a conclusion at all how azeri girls is good or bad and some common problem with azeri girls ( i like to know caucasian people and i`m malay)

    one more i want to ask did all azeri`s people are shi`a muslim? did it have some azeri sunni`s muslim there?.

    thanks
    -Gav-

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  42. I love this blog, it's very true. I'm half Azeri myself,and we have an Iranian saying about Azeri women in general:

    1. They are hard working and clean
    2. Amazing cooks
    3. Expensive wives to maintain :)

    But if you ask me, I think they are worth every bit of money. One of the few lady like women in the world for a healthy and prosperous relationship. IMHO.

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  43. To the guy above, 70% of Azeris are Shi'a in the Republic of Azerbaijan, while 30% are Sunnis. After the USSR, many intermarried, so it's hard to keep up with the numbers and most now call themselves just Muslims. But Nardaran is an example of a conservative Shi'a strong hold.

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  44. I was searching for something else online and saw your.. how to call it... strange and not objective writing. Have to answer...

    I think you have problems in your marriage. Look and see what is wrong. But please, do not insult all azeri girls. First of all by this you are insulting yourself and yes i did get you, please do not question me same as you questioned Sevda. When you go on about all azeri girls, expect someone to get back to you as well.

    Not all azeri girls are looking for financial support from their foreign husbands and being azeri woman is not about cooking dolma! And by the way husbands have to support wives anyway, isn't that what you promise each other when you marry?!

    I am an azeri woman, had my Masters Degree and very good career and was making enough money to have a life i wanted in Baku, actually full of fun and happiness. Married british guy and have kids together, we are happy and never had these kind of problems. Also all depends where you meet your husband and did you have same social life before marrying, did you marry him just because he is a foreigner or you loved him? Even if you belong to different social classes love talks for itself.
    My parents never wanted to leave Baku or to be dependent on my husband, same for my sisters. They have own life going on in Baku and pretty good one.
    If my parents wanted to come over my husband would be very happy to have them.
    Coming to british family relationships i have to disagree with you. My husband's grandmother still lives with his parents since her husband died. And she is been taken very good care of. My mother in-law always helps her daughter and us with our kids. And she loves it!

    Going back to azeri girls I have to say, I have travelled before marriage a lot and after as well and lived in different countries and proud to say azeri girls one of the most beautiful, intelligent, smart and fun girls. I know some azeri women married to westerners and their husbands are happy to be able to meet an azeri girl.
    Hope your husband did not read your interpretation of your relationship, otherwise with your advise, SCARY AZERI, he should divorce you really.

    By the way, people in Azerbaijan are not starving and older people not living on the streets, and there are doctors and hospitals to go when you are sick, so it is not SCARY to be sick in Azerbaijan. So, based on your personal case, please do not generalize everything.
    Hope your changed your passport and not azeri anymore, because i personally would not wish anybody like you carrying still azeri passport and calling herself AZERI. Objective criticism is always welcomed but not subjective one.
    Someone who never been in Azerbaijan after reading your WRITING may think it is a country you have to avoid and women there JUST looking for a foreigner to marry and immigrate all her family and finance all relatives, cousins and etc. And azeri woman are only good cooks. Get a life, girl! And leave azeri girls alone, write about something else, truth.

    And yes, I did marry him because i loved him not because he is British, and he married me because he loved me, not because i am Azeri

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  45. @Anonymous: People like you make Azeris look and sound so pathetic, it is not even funny. Not going to explain it all over again, BORED.

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  46. hope you know the meaning of pathetic... you love being a judge of Azeris, i see. You really need a help, good luck with finding it

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  47. Scary, I admire your patience in moderating the comments. It's a lot of work and mostly ungrateful business. I find it tiresome when people don't understand what is being said and start attacking. But then again, sarcasm doesn't translate well for most people.

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  48. @Nata: You read my mind. Some days I simply despair. It is extremely tiresome and very frustrating. But then again, I get some amazing comments, too. It works. :)

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  49. @Nata:Not without reason,Azery Lider said for nation:Sebr,sebr ve sebr=Patience,patience and patience.Scary,u are real azery :-)

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  50. Well i am Mexican an i have a Azeri wife,both support our families,even i love her family,I am a lucky man,she is a very good mother,she and me are close of our families, we dont have problem with that,i like the visit of relatives of my wife,they are nice persons, maybe i understedood wrong ur words,but u give me impression that in UK hate the relatives of the other and hate coexist with them, if i understood wrong sorry and forget that i said,only can say,if i live other life,I wish get marry again with my wife Sevinge,we have 12 years of marriage :)
    P.D:Sorry for my down level of english

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  51. @R.Bazaldua: Your english is just fine. :) But no, I did not mean to say that people in the UK hate their relatives. Not at all. Just every culture has their own understanding of their personal space,privacy and how often they want to see their mothers in law. :)
    I think ( not that I know a lot about Mexicans!) that Mexican culture sounds a lot similar to Azeri. You have big families, living close by and spending a lot of time together. That is lovely, but not the case in some other cultures. anyway, thanks for your comment and I wish you many more happy years with your lovely Azeri wife!

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  52. You spend too much time online, don't you? Is it because of lack of friends around you?

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  53. @Anonymous: :))) How cute are you? Try harder, sweetie, this stab went right past me.

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  54. Hi, I just listened to your interview and what stood out for me was the fact that you said your first language is Russian! If you are from Azerbaijan, then surely it's Azeri?? Or are you one of those people who deny this? Only because you may of studied in Russian, it's doesn't mean that it is your mother tongue! How can you call yourself "Scary Azeri", and then go onto say "my first language is Russian". It's absolutely ridiculous and contradicting....and frankly, you should be ashamed. Imagine, an English person saying to people.."oh my first language is French!" Even someone who studies it at uni wouldn't say such a thing. It's soo silly. I understand, Russia and Azerbaijan have ties...but at the end of the day they are two seperate countries...and Russian haven't neccessarily supported Azerbaijan in the past have they? Azeris should be proud of thier langauge and not try to be something they are not.Even just from reading some of your blogs, I can sense a mocking tone from your style of writing...making me question whether you are actually Azeri (despite you having come from their). You don't seem to be portraying Azerbaijan in a good light at all...almost as though you have some sort of anger towards this country. You'll probably try to defend yourself now, and please do...but i'll never understand why an Azeri would say their first language is Russian...can you imagine a Russian saying the same about Azerbaijan?....NO !!

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  55. @Anonymous: I don’t think I need to defend myself.
    You said we should not try to be something we are not? My first language is the one I spoke at home, the one my parents spoke to me all my life, and the one my friends speak to me. That is my first-or if it makes more sense to you?- my native language. I.e. the language I dream in and think in. Hope it explains to you what it means when someone says my first language is this and not another. I don’t speak Azeri enough to understand newspapers or even hold a normal conversation. I am NOT proud of it, it just something that happened to a lot of "russkoyazichnie" Azeris in Baku in those days. You might be from a different generation, i.e. a lot younger and don’t understand how it is possible. I wish I spoke Azeri, but I don't. So there. I am not bothered either way.

    There are a lot of people like me, and there are a lot of people like you, who tried to attack me here, on the blog for my not being "Azeri enough". I am not here to try to prove anything to you. If you enjoy it, you are welcome. If you don't- you are welcome not to return.

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  56. @anonymous: also, I just like laughing at things. I mock religions, stupidity, arrogance, racism, english silly things, azeri silly things, russian things...I dont really specialize. :) but most importantly, I am not afraid to laugh at my own problems and silly things I do. I just like to joke about stuff. You either "get it" or not. it is very simple.

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  57. Dear Scary,
    i love your blog. I am not from Azerbaijan , but one of the post Soviet Union Countries. at that time russian was the first language and we spoke russian everywhere.we still do. i think people should understand the difference between national language and your first language.And i really don't understand those agressive approaches, it sounds more showing off patriotic feelings rather than common sense.

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  58. I agree with your post. After living in USA for some years you see a big difference between Azery and Americans. Americans in the same way as English people put first their privacy and independence. In all relationship they looking for space.For most of them seams strange talking to your parents everyday. Unfortunately I was not able to invite my mom. She said that she is scary flying, but I think it is more than that.. You know better

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  59. I enjoyed reading your blog as it's funny and entertaining. That said, I'm an American thinking of marrying an Azeri woman. She is currently astranged from you parents because they were trying to force her to marry men she had no interest in. She's been in a different city from them and has no contact. If I bring her to America I wonder if that will change and she will reach out to offer them assistance?

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    1. I see you you posted in Mar of11 did you marry?? And if so is it working out.. with all those differences.. I to am give sincere thought of marrage... thx

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  60. @Anonymous: It might happen, would it be so bad? :) I doubt she would want them to relocate and live with you, if this is what you worry about. :) but, if she is a good girl, of course she will worry about them and try to help one day if they need help. would you not help your parents?

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  61. Dear Scary, Thanks for your insights. My lovely Azeri girl and I will be together within the next few weeks and I'm very excited! I believe there is something special in the soul of Azeri women that I can't describe. But, I can see it in your blog and it makes you special also.

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  62. @Anonymous: Thank you. There are really cool girls everywhere, of course, and cultural differences can be difficult but also funny. I wish you a very happy life together.

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  63. you know, I think Sevda is right,

    the western people should realise what t they miss in their lives. I live in Holland, and I miss my family soo much! I can't realise that I could cut them out of my live and just go!

    my aunt, who lives also in holland, is married to a dutch man and I've noticed that she changed, just to fit in this whole "dutch" world. she doesnt cook any azeri food, she changed her habbits for the ducht, she's humiliating azeri people and azerbaijan sometimes, Im not saying that ur doing that too, but dont forget to write about the good side of maarying an azeri girl.

    and one question, why "scary"azeri?

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  64. This is a cultural difference. What have you expected then? A robot nation with equal customs, language and habbits? Nations have differences and that makes them uniqe, but most of all they are happy with their family. A close family what important is for happyness, for our children and for our whole nation united.

    Azeri girls are beautiful, intelligent and are dedicated to their husbands. Iam proud of Azeri women!

    To all Azeri girls. Put yourself together, think before marrying a foreigner! Ca. 95% of Azeri girls marry with native Azeri`s. We should think about our next generation, behold our rich culture and don not mix with other nations (also to all Azeri men). Be proud of your beautiful Azeri nation!

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    1. First why dont you focus on making azeri men more appealing so the girls would not look elsewhere. Also, too much marrying within your own tribe will lead to inbreeding issues. Just look how ugly british monarchy is! :) is that what you want for future generation? A bunch of inbreds? Very unhealthy.

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  65. hey
    who gives u rights to use as a nickname the name of any nation?and no one gives u rights to write any think about others nations with the disrespect. thinks which may seems weird to you called the difference between nations,its doesn't mean that those are bad or wrong.this writing of yours just show how ignorant u are.

    and if u still live in baku, can u go out and say to any male in the street that u wrote something like that about their sisters,i believe that u will feel shitiy, why? coz they gonna beat the shit of u. no one asks u to merry azeri girl,they are away good for assholes like you.

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  66. i forget to say,i believe u don't have balls to go outside and say some like our writing...in ur comments there are a lot of "not azeri" men who married with azeri women,and they are seem very happy,with their wives.u just an ignorant who likes to put dirt on the others.or maybe u got a bad childhood,may be u should to go and see some doctors,,i feel for u...

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  67. Kak mne ponravilos' "Chukotka...:)))" Sofisticos

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  68. If everything is so complicated why don't you get divorced? It is never late. You don't have to suffer for 9 years. But, if you can manage the situation, then others can do as well. I do not support your post.

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    1. Divorce in western countries wife take half of the everything man have and give the child support then why marry a women with problems better dont marry pay the money get the honey

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    2. There are not Europian nor Asian or middle eastern if they meet europian guy they become europian if the find asian they become asian if the find arab they become half arab looks peocock with the feather of Crow cannot be fit anywhere
      all azeri men have one outside women and inside women the common culture

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  69. I feel pity for you.first of all I also went to rushian school like you.I learnt Azeri just you learnt English.I believe everyone should speak their own language.its amazing read Pushkin in Rushian and read Suleiman Rustam in Azeri.I feel sorry for narrow minded people like you who loves generalise all nationality.it's disgusting of you to label it!ofcours their some girls from Baku like you said supporting their families back home but this not only Azeri girls is doing.I have a friends from brazil,Iran,Greese some of them who less fortunate financially are supporting their families.my mother came only once to uk and never had a wish to come back.as she feel homesick here.we have a nice proverbs gurunun oduna yash da yanar!
    I urge you to apologise or at least to rewrite your blog without generalising whole nation.because trust me you can find those girls in all nationalities.

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  70. @anonymous: I would urge YOU to go buy some sense of humour, and learn how to appreciate irony. Look this word up-IRONY. Sadly, it is not something you can learn in either Russian or Azeri-speaking schools. Honestly, sometimes I just despair.

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  71. Loved this story! So so so.. just wonderfully written!

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  72. So much like reading your blog! I am an Armenian myself and enjoyed every piece of your writing! Maladec!

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  73. @Anonymous 1 and 2...Thank you.

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  74. At the moment I am e-mailing this post to my husband, who is English. And he HAS a sence of humour and can read the meaning behind the lines, unlike those Azeris, who were desparately defending those mother-in-laws that would never dream of immigrating with their daughters.

    Just to give you a clue, Scary was actually praising Azeri girls, she was just doign it with Modesty.

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  75. Shafag Dickinson19 October 2011 03:49

    I am addressing this comment to "the girl whose husband married her because she was not Azeri, because he loved her". At the moment, taking extreme care of your parents is not an issue to worry for you, probably because, as I see it, they are relatively young, are in a stable financial state. What about in 20-30 years time, one of your parents die (it happens, you know), let’s say your father dies leaving his other half on her own in the age of 75, yes, WITH BUCKET LOTS OF MONEY. Your mother can afford hiring a nurse, and you’re still living with your British husband in the UK. Would you just visit her three times a year and just observing how the natural cause takes over, and how aging makes her disable?? You could answer “I have brothers to look after her in Azerbaijan”, what if you didn't have one, you were the only child?? Wouldn't you be judged by your numerous cousins, or ex neighbors for not taking care of her by yourself personally??

    Wouldn't you do anything possible to get her immigrated to the country where you are, rent a place near you so that you could visit her every day?? SHE would pay for her rent of course, in your case, your father, who comes from high social rank, hypothetically left her fortune

    If you say “no”, then you are that exact Azeri girl that Foreigners should marry, because you wouldn’t bring nuisance to your daily life and be harassing your husband with the issue of “how much you need to take care of your mother”. But if you say "yes", then you have no reason to go against what Scary wrote in her post.

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  76. Shafag Dickinson19 October 2011 04:18

    Oh yes, I forgot to asnwer Anar. Of course, marrying your own nation is great, makes it easy for your families to communicate, integrate. But every nation needs "big genetic pool", you need to mix blood, freshen it. You might call the next generaltion bred by mixed marriages "hybrids", but "grapefruits" are as healthy as apples, aren't they?

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  77. @Shafag: I could not find the comment you were responding to, but I am a bit bored with these comments by now, people who cant get what I mean, people who are crazy with own self-importance and sensitivity. You should not have bothered either, but thank you for your support. :-)

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  78. I find your blog interesting and understand your views and sarcazm.Living in Britain ,having foreign husband and being an Azeri myself I think we have a lot in common.I agree that marrying Azeri girl means being married to her whole family,but when it comes to inviting in-laws I am not to sure.In my views,British culture should be judged ,not ours.My husband is fine with my family,we travel to Azerbaijan every year and he wants to emigrate there more than I do.He loves the hospitality,warmth,food and almost everything.Wish you good luck with your blog

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  79. @anonymous: thanks. british culture has its own problems; and i do talk about those,too. I definitely think that overall, azeris have much closer relationship and respect for elderly, etc. I hope my children take it from me, not from the UK ways. I am fortunate that my husband is very close to his parents, too. But it is not that common here.

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  80. Living in Britain is not easy in terms of their culture.When you think about your children's future,them being out clubbing ,sleeping around,taking drugs and drinking ,so on the list goes forever,it makes you think about going back.But there are not a lot of opportunities and so many problems back home.I so wish my children take it from Azeri culture not the British,or hope that Azerbaijan will prosper and be corruption-free (the way things go,I very much doubt it) so we all could return.
    I like your blog,try to read as much as I can.Good luck !

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  81. Hi,
    I am neither a British nor an Azeri. I am an Indian bachelor guy and here I don’t even want to comment on those issues which are not in my cup of tea. But one thing that I really like and appreciate the way how men and women from different corner of the world fall in love with each other and then get married in spite of so many social, cultural and religious barrier. They have different lifestyles, food habits, social structure, cultural upbringings etc.But still they loved each other.
    When people overcome such huge problems in their life and get settled then how negligible are those day to day family problems like wife wanted to migrate her parents, husband wanted more space etc. I think a happy and healthy life is a combination of happiness and small troubles which you can get rid of it soon.

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  82. nice entry! and the last comment by the indian bachelor is utterly beautiful and the sentiment is profoundly romantic- good luck finding the one :)

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  83. hah! i like this article, actually,we have a joke between us "Ausländer" (foreigner: to call someone so here,it's offensive):

    "Marry a German girl,but raise an Azeri kid(s)"

    It sounds weird, but it's true(somehow), at least, raise the child in Azeri-way, of course, environment will affect on him or her, but still,if your child will NOT abandon you and respect you,as we respect our parents: CONGRTS,u have done a very good job :)

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  84. Hello Scaryazeri, I am an azerbaijani guy, I found your blog today by chance and
    liked it very much. :)) It is very useful for foreigners to get information about azerbaijani males and females. I will recommend your blog to my international friends. Especially to ones who have azerbaijani boyfriend or girlfriend. But when I read the headline of your article I thought you had written about other bad sides of azerbaijani girls. For example cheating. I grew up in Baku and almost all my friends were dating with married azerbaijani women, walking in parks it was very easy to find married azerbaijani woman who was looking for a partner. I came to UK 3 monthes ago and did not notice or hear about massive cheating of english women. I read your other article where you mentioned that you had cheat on your boyfriend with his friend. Cheating is one of the major features of azerbaijani girls. Many azerbaijani girls date with several guys at the same time. They always look for a better and appropriate one even when they are in relationship. At least they keep in touch with guys to keep them in reserve in case if their boyfriend break up with them. I have never seen a german, french, italian girl in UK cheating on their boyfriends. But there are many unfaithful azerbaijani girls in UK some of whom even cheat on their fiance. Taking everything into account I will never marry to an azerbaijani girl. :)) And cheating is just one of the many negative features of azerbaijani girls.

    PS: Azerbaijani men are not so better than azerbaijani women.

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  85. Anonymus, I bet you're not Azerbaijani! Eger sen dogurdan azerbaycanlisan, basha dushersen: sen- bigeyret ograshsan, eger senin anan bacin gehpe olub, hamiya aid eleme! Azerbaycanli oglan bele shey hech vaxt yazmaz.

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  86. @Anonymous: I understand why someone here would think you are not azerbaijani. Whether you are or not, you are talking complete b***cks, my friend. Azeri girls maybe cheat, some of them, just like girls all over the world. there is some tendency for men in the ex-soviet countries- NOT just azerbaijan- to take pride in having a mistress. It is like a status symbol, I guess. It is very cultural. But as for women..I doubt they have any different sort of morals to anyone else in the world. Also, statistically women cheat a lot less than men, just for your info.

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  87. It is so sweet and respectful of you to care about your parents with such diligence! I'm from India and we share the same values as yours regarding parents and society. You should've married someone from India :)

    Aniruddh

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  88. Good Blog indeed, Thank You.
    Yes! Flown to Baku first time early January, met some locals saw beautiful down-to-earth Azeris - now determined to Marry Azeri lady soon, ASAP. Now, should I marry then take her Kuala Lumpur MALAYSIA in the first place?
    Appreciate your reply.
    Regards
    Razman Majid

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  89. You know, I think that before marrying one should think over what exactly he wants and expects from the other person. As for me both of you have completely different point of view when it goes about family issues. Forgive my honesty, but you should blame yourself for being blind.

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  90. @anonymous: that's so deep. Very phylosophical. Your honesty is forgiven. :)

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  91. Hi scaryazeri! I am sure you are very pretty and not scary at all! I loved your blog. My Australian husband sent it to me. So funny and true. I have been married for 11 years and blessed with two children and my beloved parents lived with us in Sydney for 1.5years and in Vietnam for 2 years(where we have been expats for 6 years now). I love my parents and brothers and cousins and miss Azerbaijan very much. We are all going back in June for summer holidays and cannot wait to meet everyone. Great blog! Keep up your funny style of writing. All the best.

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  92. Hi Scary Azeri,
    Your blog is awesome. In my case, I will be the scary american (well, sort of, I am kind of a first generation american mix of everything in existence) wife marrying the azeri man :) Reading your blog has given the two of us a lot to laugh about. If people cannot understand your humor, they probably shouldn't be reading blogs and should stick to encyclopedias. Keep it up.
    Best,
    Nitza

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      Thanks for this and good luck with your azeri man! I hope you have found a great one-they do exist, even if difficult to find!

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  93. ScaryAzeri, great blog - written with humor and wit! Thank you!

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  94. HI i have been reading ur blogs today with intrests, i have been talking to an azeri lady for a few weeks now and we have become pretty close. I live in the uk, she is younger than me but says she as feelings for me and would eventually like to us both to be together. She contacted me saying she had got my email address from somewhere, and so we started talking, she sends me a picture of herself daily. What i would like is a bit of advice please as to whether you have heard of this happening before or do you think that i could be being scammed , thankyou

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    1. Honey, if you have to ask this question you already deserve being conned! There is a typical scam letter i have put n this blog somewhere. I have not got time to look up directions of how to paste a link here but try and google scary azeri hello my new boyfriend!" that should help you decide.

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  95. bax bele demek lazimdi:)

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  96. wow i never knew there were azeris here in Doha

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    1. There is everybody-literally!-here in doha, so of course there are some azeris, too! :) quite a few, i would imagine. Oil related, maybe. But also, a huge lot of eastern europeans and russians....good luck with that. :)

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  97. Syed Azeem, she's not Azeri. She is just russian-jewish bitch from Azerbaijan, nothing more

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    1. Oh, dear. Not another idiot full of national pride." how many of you are there?

      Ok, i get the bitch part and dont care if you call me that. Thats cool. But russian jew??? I dont have any russian in me, why cant you just accept that? But hold on...i dont really care about that either. If it makes you all feel better about yourself, my dear...let me be armenian or russian, or an osetinian...whatever makes you happy!

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  98. Hi ScaryAzeri,
    I am armenian, married with a belgian man. Your story is so known, a lot of ladies will recognize in this their own story. In West men have some difficulties to understand why we care so much about our parents. Why it's so important for us that our children meet their grandparents as much as possible. My parents are in Armenia and the happiest time for them is the period when the grandchildren are visiting during the holidays. It's just a huge cultural difference, other values and other education. I am lucky to have a good job, earning enough to help my parents in Armenia. Like your blog, written with humor. Success

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    1. Thank you!
      Dont know much about belgian husbands, what are they like? :)

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  99. my husband is Flemish. Flemish guys generally are very good husbands, taking very good care of children, hard workers. In my case he has very nice personality. I don't think there is huge difference between Belgian, English or other North European men. But if I compare with Caucasians there is of course, you must know this. :) but funniest thing is that most of the cases mucho-behaviour of Caucasian men here disappears. Really, I know few armenian and azeri families, the husbands are just great.
    I wana ask something els: i wonder wat's happened with the couple (azeri girl and armenian boy) both students from London. I am so sorry for them. Are they still together (I hope so)? Do you have any idea?

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  100. Hei Scary Azeri,

    Despite of the qualities you mentioned about an average Azeri gal, instead of finding them weird or annoying, I found it more promising as in a potential mate. Because the fact she has a stronger ties to her family, it implies to the new family as well any Azeri lady starts with her husband. So what if she insists to help her family. Here in my country we love our in-laws, as much as we love our own parents and a husband or wife would voluntarily help them and stand beside them in all their ocassions, even if he/she isn't asked by their spouses to do so. Again what's more fortunate for a kid, then being raised by both his/her paternal as well as maternal grandparents. And it also teaches them the greatest lesson of life, to love their parent's no matter what and never abandon them. After all they took so much pain to give us our life and to raise us.
    I would readily start my life with an Azeri lady if I ever meet one.
    -Indian Guy

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  101. Don't you people understand Satire?

    Doesn't even "Scary Azeri" sound like a rather funny combination of words to you, or do you really take it seriously too? :D

    JahT

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    2. here in the US we call such people dumb'jack'asses.

      very fitting.

      marlena.

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  102. Sorry mate, but we Indians don't understand sarcasm and neither do we encourage. We prefer being straight forward. And frankly speaking we do share the same values for our parents and also look out for these values in our spouses.

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      Just because you dont have enough sense of humor or dont get something does not mean the rest of your nation cant either. I personally know a few very bright indians who have a great understanding of satire, trust me. :) and there are a lot of azeris who misunderstand this post, as you can see from above. So really, i am afraid lack of brain cells is internationally common.

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  103. Well, I see that you're a pro at stereotyping.. taking care of someone who gave you life and supported you forever shouldn't be a problem for anyone. Keep that in your THICK head!

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  104. What bullshit ? My wife is Azeri and she's unrivaled and she's most decent compared to British sluts !

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  105. Brilliant post scary, love the writing style. Love of my life is an Azeri but she married the wrong person and now we are both unhappy.She is definitely worth marrying the whole family

    Thank you for opening the eyes to the wonderful Persian culture and attitude and families, refreshing and entertaining. I hope we all keep our eyes and minds open

    P

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  106. I think Azeris have got great culture and traditions which many nations in the word missing. We need to pass our best traditions and culture to our kids. When I say best I mean our family values, obligation to look after our parents when they get older (this is a holy duty for Azeris), our respect to elders, being helpful to those who are in need, hospitality, tolerance to other nations, religions and cultures. These are the values which are not present in every country. I also did not get why it is scary to be sick in Baku? What, we are living in undeveloped city? There are no good hospitals or doctors? Don't we have an emergency services? I would be much more scared to be sick in UK, because in public hospitals you need to wait too long to be seen by doctors, if I do not have an access to the private clinics. I had an experience with helping out to old woman who lived alone and sick at home, who couldn't afford to buy medicines, we as neighbors collected money and provided with what she needed. She is in good health now. She was not abandoned by her kids, she lived alone all the time. This is the ''being helpful'' value which my nation has got.
    I really believe that you will be able to pass these good values to your daughter. I believe that this is in your heart and you know what it is to be Azeri. You came out from this culture. I truly wish you all the best.
    P.S. Somehow I can't post this comment as a open ID or Goggle account. Anyway, although I'm posting it as Anonymous, my name is Firuz Salamov and I temporarily live and work in UK.

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  107. I am from India and loving one very beautiful Azeri girl, she too loves me madly but she is not ready to marry me.She thinks her father and brother will not like our marriage(specially due to foreigner). She is not even ready to run with me due to her mom, she don't want to lose her mom.I am helpless. Any help for me??

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  108. @Sadig Garayev: For some reason your comment, even though published, appears in the comments section on the side, but not here. It must be that the blogger system got fed up with this complete and utter lack of understanding of satire and sarcasm! It is so frustrating to listen to people like you, who just assume things about me without even having a clue at all. You need to take time and read some comments here, as I have explained it all before to other clueless people before you.

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    2. Before or after the end of the world?

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  109. Hello, Reading your posts has certainly been interesting. I was born and raised in Iran but have been living in North America for the last 22 years and to be honest..i think anywhere in the world you go, you can find people who are of good nature and bad nature. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feed backs but i am very intrigued with the Azari Culture which seems to so much like mine and it certainly is refreshing to see a rich culture :).
    God Bless you all

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  110. One can't or shouldn't generalize on azeri girls. Most of the girls who marry foreigners are from among so -called "ruskoyazichniy" (those who prefer speak Russian to look intelligent, have mixed blood, were once divorced or have no father or elder brother, are not azeri turkish girl, jews, lezgis, russians born in azerbaijan and others). No matter how modern or "europeanized" is the turkic azeri gorl, her family would never let her marry a foreigner, unless there are some family ties like with Turkey.

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  111. :D What would I say?.. "East is East, and West is West, and never the twain shall meet!". That's it!
    But... On the other hand, we must not forget this immortal "A man's love goes through his stomach"! " :D
    My mom is the best cook ever! :D P-E-R-I-O-D!

    PS I'm that ashamed of some comments here!.. Guys, it's even not about the PURE lacking of sence of humour! It's rather 'bout this horrible, retarded typically turkish / middle eastern pathetic moralizing (an instructive, almost dictatorial way!).. ((

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  112. Gurgen Bakhshiyan11 December 2012 13:03

    Hello Scary Azeri(I am sorry I don't know your name),

    I found your blog by accident following the link from the article about Safarov, and keep coming back here as I am enjoying reading, and feeling that you are a sincere person. Choh sagol.

    When I was 17 yrs old my parents sent me to study to the UK, and I stayed with the British family.I changed two families within a year, and was actually shocked while observing the relationship between parents and children.Both families had eating schedules for their kids, and kids were not allowed to open the refrigerator between those hours, or have some extra piece of potato while dinning. This was really shocking for me as my grandma was always chasing me with the food, and I was not allowed to leave the house before I eat, and when I was eating whole family would sit around me and enjoy watching me eating. I think you would understand what I am talking about.

    Once, I asked my landlady what she would do with her money if she is not able to spend it all before she dies, would she leave them to her kids? The answer was "no way" She said she would rather leave her money to me than to her children, they have to earn it themselves, and then I told her that no wonder your children will send you to the nursing home, and she was not against that idea.

    In my opinion what you give you get the same back. I am sure your kid feels that crazy love from you, and that is why I don't believe she would ever abandon you, and it is so great that she has at least 2 months of that valuable communication with your mom.




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      Trust me, not all brits have such bizarre relationship as you described here. My husband is very close to his parents, and even though there definitely are certain cultural differences, overall their relashipnship is pretty goos and natural. Excuse the typing mistakes, ipad sucks. Anyway, i hope you are correct about my own kids, only the future will show! I also think that seeing how we treat our own parents helps to bring them up in a way we want them to grow up. I.e. if we spend a lot of time with grandparents, and they grow up sharing that love and affection, they might see us as an important part of their own families when they grow up, too.
      P.s. glad you are enjoying the blog.

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  113. Scary Azeri,

    I agree with you, and I didn't mean to say that those parents love their kids less, it is just the way they foster them, and there are many positive sides in it. First, they have discipline, and second, children know that they have to be serious about their education and career as they have nobody to rely on, whereas, many of our guys just grow up spoiled.

    I was also reading some comments to this article,and was amused especially by those written by azeris.

    It is clear that you portrayed azeri girl as loving and caring one, and very attached to her family.This crazy attachment not all foreigners would understand, and even accept.That is why foreigner should at least be aware, and realize about that very important aspect.

    One good example came to my mind which shows how cultural difference can be difficult to understand.

    My cousin is a single armenian mom living with her 21-year old son in the States. She has two jobs, and dedicates all her life to that guy. She finally met a good arab man,who is a doctor. That man moved to my cousin's place, and they lived happily for a while. All of a sudden that man was offered a much better job in a different state where he offered my cousin to move, and she of-course refused because her son didn't want to move. It was very hard for that man to understand why my cousin is not letting her 21- year old son to live his own life without her continuous care.

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  114. if you are foreign here, foreign there and foreign everywhere, may be it is you who have got huge problems with various cultures. No one said cultures should be similar to British culture. And why on earth British culture should be a benchmark? I personally prefer catholic american culture, which is in many ways similar to azeri.

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  115. if you dont know about azerbaijan no need to write this fucking essay,,who wrote this essay needs to study history

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  116. When you marry someone from another culture ...some cultural shocks may come ... you have to be ready for that and accept . .. probably she is thinking too ...what a jerk i have married ...

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  117. Hi. I`m azeri girl. THe author talk about marriage with azeri girl. It`s typical situation. If you marry with a girl from any oriental country, you will feel the same. Many foreigners marry with azeri girl, if husband is good, they have very good families.

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  118. The information provided (including photos) has nothing to do with Azerbaijani cultureand history. People who intentionally publish misleading information on the web should be criminally responsible for their actions. The report about illegal internet activities of this website has been recently submitted to the respective organization.

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  119. I love Azerbaijan , Because i love Azerbaijani girl , I married with Azerbaijani girl , She is from good family , And she is proper Muslim girl , My Sweetheart and my dream my life ,, I am happy with her ,, In the world no one can make me happy like her ,, Really and the main thing she is too careful wife she care me alot ,,

    As i love her she also loves me ,,

    We can not live with out each other and i know her how she is true with me ,,

    She choose me in 2010

    When i came in Azerbaijan i have lost and i was a poor guy ,,

    But she help me Not financially but with words with her tongue

    and now i am standing on my own feet , And still she is with me ,,

    we have alot of fights just for what

    She is talking too much some time

    Arguing about some matters , Some time

    just for this thing as every where happening this ,,

    but i love her and she will be my partner

    for all my life

    and i will not cheat her

    i will look after her

    i will care her

    i will love her

    until my last breath ...,


    This is my words about Azerbaijan and azeri wife.

    But i am Pakistani

    Wajid

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  120. how can i maary azeri girl? whats the easiest way for this?

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  121. Is Azerbaijan even a real country ?

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  122. Hahaha to 'is Azerbaijan even a real country' I pray that isn't a Brit who posted that..

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  123. Hello, everybody. Azerbaijan is a real country has always been. And that is firm. I don't think the girl or whatever she or he or IT is. Since we don't know if this person is he or she. And for sure is not an Azerbaijani person. Nor Azerbaijani person would write such a thing about his/her country. I am sure it is a scam. And I would kindly ask that scary someone to be careful with words. You should carefully choose who are insulting sugar. Well, that is scary

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  124. Hm...interesting. I have a question for the author of this website. I just wonder why azeri ppl?!? or the whole blog about this country. Why dont you write about scary portugese or nepalese etc? Is there any specific reason? Have you been hurt by someone in this country?

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  125. i get this hard. we're armenian and my mom was saving what little she could and sending cash back home to my grandparents even when we had just immigrated to the States and hardly had enough money to live. God willing, I can take care of my parents the way they took care of theirs. We learn what we see--this goes for your daughter too! :)

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  126. bullshit !!!

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  127. Great Blog i love this i facing same problems with my azeri wife azeri girl dont marry azeri men with little money they all want to fly abroad money is the more important to there life they dont care about husband or children big house car no cooking expensive shopping just pain the life no ethics take advantage of laws womens right blah blah western muslim never marry azeri girl period. they are good to the christians and non muslims i say that too there are easy convert to any religion if you have money laanat to these people

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  128. I doubt that you are Azeri but I will make a few comments:
    I'm not in a position to classify the whole nation under one category and if I do so it would be very ignorant of me. First of all most Azeris are very pride people, that is the reason why you rarely see any migrants from Azerbaijan cleaning the floor abroad unlike some other nations like armenians for example. Azeris would rather be poor but feel like their own lord in their own land, So would my parents. Yet alone accepting charity from weird daughter and the son in law. I'm married to an English man but but as a pride Azeri, I would never humiliate my family by buying something to them with the money of my husband or asking them to live with me. I can work instead and make my own income and doing some favor to parents out of your own pocket is always nice gesture considering what they have done to you. Humiliating your own nation in such a manner will not give you any bonuses especially in front of your own husband. You first must respect yourself and be proud of what you are if you want to be treated the same way. So far I perfectly understand why your husband doesn't want to see your family in his house.

    Cheers from a loving wife who is married to an amazing English man

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    1. Agree: we are proud. After all we are Caucasians, and most of Caucasians are naturally proud people. As for cleaning the floors, you never where life will get you, so.. As for supporting your parents, I couldn't agree more too that yes, woman can work and support herself and yes , I can imagine it would be rather humiliating to ask your husband for finance support for your parents. But I disagree that buying a present with financial support of your husband would be a humiliation. Why should it be in the first place? Unless you abuse his kindness, then yes , it is.

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  129. I can't wait to marry my azeri girl.. I am Canadian and she completes me. She is smart, sexy and independent. She speaks many languages and finds something good in everyone.. I love you S.M.

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  130. I been married 4 times in my short live my first wife was English second Scottish third one was Turkish resend one is Azeri and mother of my kids I can say only one think they no perfection If you going to ask your Azeri wife opinion she will complain about you to so if you realy LOVE hear you will see only good sites and ask your self why you get married with her in first place? So good luck with your happy live
    Im happy azeri man with azeri woman

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  131. I will never go for azeri girl, coz loving them truely and immensely was my life's biggest mistake. I fought for her with my family, friends left everything coz I loved her unconditionally. My love for her was honest & pure. There are times when you are on top achieveing your dreams and financially sound to make your beloved ones happy with love and what they need. But days are not always same.... When I was financially down, I didnt have money to give her gifts but wished her honestly and whole-heartly. But reply I got was, "I dont want your cheap wishes." I loved her and her love was my strenght to stand back when time was bad. But she left me and got hooked up with other european guy. Typing all this I cant stop my tears and pains which I have inside my heart. When I was going to Azerbaijan that time, they asked me reason for going azerbaijan at embassy during visa procedure. I answered that am going to see my love my life partner. The only thing that azeri man said was, " Friend you go like a good man, please dont marry a Azeri girl coz they keep relation for 2years and them leave you." I asked the reason why you saying like this, he reply, "Friend its in there blood coz I know azeri girls/women." I really think if I would have listen to that person today I wont be seeing this state of mine but I went for her fake love. Now my belief in love has gone and to dont have strenght to love some else ever again. my throat is choked up where I want to sound and say why why why... eyes filled with tears of betrayal from azeri girl. I really feel that instead of getting married to azeri girl I should have got married to My Indian girl who will never leave me but will stand strong for there beloved once

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  132. Hi! Just learned about your blog and I find it hilarious and something I can relate to , being myself Azeri, i get to hear every now and then about how grumpy I am, and different, etc, etc, etc. very relevant :-),

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